Dating a divorced woman with 2 kids
Having them around me made me feel happy, loved, not alone. () "I feel like SUCH a single mom this week."No you don't.
Yes, you may not have extra hands at breakfast or bath time, but this is NOT the same as being a single mom.
Yet even among my closest friends, I would experience "well-meaning" advice, words and comments that really stung.
Things that I myself might have said prior to my divorce, having no idea how powerful those seemingly innocent words could be:1.
"You're so brave."Another seemingly innocuous comment—well-meaning, and yet I can't think of a single time I heard this that it didn't ultimately feel like pity.9.
"I would never put up with ()."I hung in for months after discovering my husband's affair—and no one was more surprised than I was.
"I'd never survive if it happened to me."This is like the opposite of the above comment—implying that divorce is something that would decimate the average person.
I only wanted to feel "typical"—not some freak or outsider because of my new status.8.
She apologized for putting me in that situation but it will happen again. But I'm wondering if I'm not ready to deal w/ crap like this. Maybe they family needed to warm up to you as well.In the year 2000 I was happily married (for 13 years, together for 20) to my college sweetheart, with a lovely home and two young children.Then one day I began the process of discovering my husband's long-standing affair—with someone I knew very well. And though I met and married a wonderful man— and have been married for over 10 years—the hurt and pain of that time is still there. I was (and still am) very lucky to have an incredible network of friends and family—without whom I would have never come out the other side as successfully as I did.The fears, anger, hurt and complications that accompany divorce are there 24/7, as opposed to the temporary "single" status that occurs when a spouse is away. "I kind of envy your 'alone' time."Another well-meaning comment that ultimately stings. No matter the cause, divorce almost always feels—on some level—like failure.Mainly because even in moments when I was enjoying my "alone" time, the reason for it would quickly overwhelm. A comment like this just pours salt on the wound.6.